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| Teresa Gueco at Maria Cristina Park, Tarlac City |
They say that there will come a time in a relationship where
the thing you adore in your partner will be the reason of your quarrels. That
the traits that first draw you to your partner will tick you. You might like a
person for being mysterious or chatty but there will come a time where it will
drive you nuts. Of course, I don’t have personal proof to validate that but if
you will see it from a different perspective I think it is true.
When I was still studying people keep asking me what path I
will take, what type of career my program will lead me, and where will I be
after I graduate. During those times I confidently say that I can be anywhere
since communication is pervasive. Our Profs did tell us we can be in any field
we want to be, we can be in the field of media, advertising, marketing, or even
sales!
It is our strength. We honed ourselves to be the best in different fields.
I remember a conversation I had with a friend when the topic
about mastery came up, we share our own sentiments and he shared an instance
during a job interview, it was asked what we major in our program.
To cut it short, my friend answers what we have thought is the
answer. He told the interviewee that there is no specific major in the program
we took, we learn and tackle all of them! He thought it is a great answer until
he heard the rebuttal line ‘So you are a Jack of all trades, master to none?’
Maybe that’s the reason why I went on a phase of confusion.
We don’t have a concrete path that we know we can be part of. If you took education
the next thing you have to do is take your licensure exam and be the educator
that you wanted to be. If you took a business course the next thing you need to
do is look for a job that is related to finance and accounting or start your
own business. Of course people who graduated from those programs were not
limited to one profession, but you know what I want to point out here.
Unlike us, if you ask those who study under those programs, they’ll say
specific career paths.
Eventually our strength became our weakness. We were lost
and stuck with the realization that we could have been better but how? I know
enough of the little things but how will I stand out?
Our then strength became our weakness. We were so diverse
that we can’t decide where to go next. We have been put in a position wherein
you have to choose between so many possibilities but despite all of them you
still look and ended up being mediocre.
I once read a thread regarding how a relationship lasts and it's not
because I’m looking for tips or something, it just so happen that a friend of
mine found the thread fitting for him that time since he just got out of a
relationship and so he shared it with us.
In the post, the one who penned it underwent life studies and
stuff, a part of their study was to find out the reason for a lasting
relationship. They were asked to interview people of different relationship
statuses. They went and ask the reason how they last and why it lasted, is it
love or choice. Upon asking it turns out that the majority of the people don’t
consider pure love as the reason why they are still on a relationship. It’s not
about the kilig or the love, it’s all about choosing to be in the relationship.
So where am I heading with this? What I want you to realize
is that no matter how powerful or the lack thereof of your chances in life, the thing that will help you make it through is you. You accepting that life is
full of crap and that it is not always rainbows and butterfly, you realizing
that it is always up to you whether you consider your strength as a weakness or
make your weakness as some field for you to improve.
If we let people make us doubt our strength then how can
we grow? Yes, there will be times where you will question your capabilities and
skills but don’t let it break you. You are more than that.
For years you face criticism and self-doubt, you fought in
silence, cried when the light was off, you’ve been through a lot but please don’t
quit. Are you going to quit now that you’ve been through all of that? You
already suffered, gain something from it.
If they made you turn your strength as your weakness, then
try and turn it back again as your strength.
And now, you will be stronger than before, wiser, and much
more ready to face life. I’m rooting for you, even when you at your worst, know
that I’m rooting for you.